A different kind of resolution…

I never make New Year’s resolutions. The kinds of things people usually choose for resolutions always seem to be kind of a drag. Things like I want to lose 5 pounds, I want to exercise more, I want to eat ___ and not eat ___, etc. It seems like resolutions are not usually things that people are just dying to get in there and do. They mostly seem to be things that people think they SHOULD be doing but aren’t. Kind of like things they want to make themselves do.

In general a New Year rolling around doesn’t motivate me to do much. If I want to make changes in my life, I just do them, no matter the time of year. And for me, what motivates me to make changes is when the heart and mind get on the same page. That is what sparks motivation. Not a number rolling around on the calendar.

That being said, last year I did make a “resolution.” I was sitting in a coffee shop reading a book on January 2, 2016, and enjoying it immensely. I posted on my FB page: “New Year Resolution: Spend more time reading and drinking coffee in coffee shops.”

For me, this is the kind of resolution I can keep and look forward to keeping. And I did do a lot of reading in coffee shops this year. I even made a Pinterest board to document the times I went to coffee shops to read. The board has 25 pins on it, and I even missed a few times. So I think I did a good job of keeping this resolution. And it enriched my life greatly!

Reading is something I greatly enjoy and is a great stress reliever for me, and reading in coffee shops specifically is very relaxing for me. When I’m at home there are just too many things to do most of the time, laundry, cleaning, cooking, work on the computer, etc. Getting out and reading in a coffee shop allows me to do so without a lot of distractions.

I plan to continue with this “resolution” into 2017 because I enjoy it so much! Life is short, people, and I want to make time for the things that bring me joy.  I guess I never liked New Year’s Resolutions because they always seemed like such an exercise in self flagellation. But if I can make a New Year’s Resolution to make more time for things that are important to me and that bring me joy, then that seems like a good thing.

In case any of you locals are interested, Nova’s Bakery in Rock Hill is my favorite local coffee shop for reading!

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So I have a new idea for a resolution in 2017. I know many, many interesting people, but I am such an introvert that I really don’t know many people all that well. I have my small core group of friends with whom I can really talk about things, but I am kind of a loner and tend to do a lot of things by myself (by choice). And so much of life in general seems so “surfacey.” We get together in groups and talk about general things, the weather, our jobs, what we’re training for (runners), but so much of daily conversation is so superficial. I really yearn for a deeper connection with other people. But I’m an introvert, remember, so I can only really do this in small doses. 🙂

I want to make time to share with others with whom I feel a connection but perhaps don’t know all that well. I want to talk about things that are deeper than the typical surfacey things we all talk about. And I want to do this one-on-one because I get too distracted and unfocused when more people are involved. So I plan to invite some folks out for coffee (or tea, or a beer, or maybe a meal) to talk for about an hour and to dig a little deeper about life and interests and family and thoughts and opinions. I already have several people in mind, people with whom I don’t get to spend a lot of time but whom I find interesting and whom I want to know more about. I hope to do this at least once a month, so if I can keep this resolution that will be 12 people with whom I made a “connection” during the year. And that’s a resolution that makes me excited!

So if I reach out to you in this coming year and ask you to join me for coffee, I hope you will say YES! I look forward to making new connections and learning a lot in the process. Happy New Year, friends!